3 Things We Know About Boundaries (and Some Bonuses).

Boundaries are a total god send.

They are a relatively new discovery for me (I know I know, the Wellness Guy is horrendous with boundaries!).

They will set you free as they have done for me.

Free from drama.

Free from whatever anchor it is holding you back.

Free from the road blocks continually slowing you down.

Free to move forwards towards what you want in your life.

Boundaries are essentials, not nice to haves.

There are some really important things to note about boundaries which you need to expect to happen.

Here are just 3 of them.

1.  If you do not create your own boundaries, someone else will do that for you.

And I promise you, that it is highly unlikely that you will not like or be aligned to the boundaries someone else places on your time and energy. You encourage what you tolerate.

2. People do not like it when you create boundaries

When you stop doing what you have always done, people don’t like it. They especially don’t like it if…

• They have no boundaries themselves.
• Your new boundaries don’t suit them.
• Your boundaries give less time and energy to them.

Most likely because they were the ones taking advantage of your time and energy in the first place.

3. You MUST communicate your boundaries effectively.

If you don’t communicate your boundaries then you cannot expect someone not to cross them.  Communicating your boundaries with bosses, colleagues, your partner, friends and family doesn’t have to be scary. It can actually be collaborative and an open question/exploration session which can be great for all parties.

Bonus #1
You need some boundaries from you to you.

If you are reading anything I write fair chance you are a high performer in your field. Therefore we have a tendency to favour more and better over ‘GEMO-Good Enough Move On’ (ref @dave hembrough). So we need to know where we are contributing to our well-being struggles and put some measures in place to prevent the self sabotage.

Bonus #2
Have zero guilt for your boundaries.

You are putting limits on how much access people have to your assets (time, energy, money, love, health) because you need to protect yourself so you can show up as your best self for you and those you care about. If you don’t look after yourself then you can’t be your best self for anyone. They are essential, not a nice to have. 

Bonus #3
Protect your boundaries

As if your life depends on it. Because it does. Maybe not life and death, but quality of life, fulfilment, presence, health and happiness certainly do.

Now I love a boundary me.

Hence why I marketed 3 things we know and gave you 6!

What are your boundaries and how are you upholding them?